Evelina Åström | Leadership Mentor for Highly Sensitive Female Entrepreneurs

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What To Do When You Are The Victim Of Other People’s Passive-Aggresiveness

I know you’re suffering … Being highly sensitive can feel so lonely when you’re the only one that knows what other people are up to — you can sense when someone is acting with ego or being passive-aggressive towards you or others… it’s painful to be the only one aware of that…

Even worse, you’re always the one that people try to attack in a passive-aggressive way. People around you would not recognise it — but you do, and you are sick of it.

You dream of a fair world where everyone can be kind and act from a place of love towards each other. You dream of a world where you don’t need to be affected by others' aggression … and bearing the guilt of others' drama that they’re projecting on you — why is this so hard for people?

You think ‘this is just the way the world is’ — But at the same time… why are you always being accused or blamed with no actual grounds?

This confuses you and you tear yourself apart… Because you don't want to be the one that makes people upset or disappointed. If you make people upset you think it’s you that is causing others pain — you even thinks that makes you the “bad person”.

But none of that is actually true, my dear beautiful friend. Let me repeat, that is NOT TRUE.

You’re blessed with the gift of being highly-sensitive and therefore you detect this in a way that others don't and you are therefore also more awake for this behavior than non-sensitive people.

You have the gift of seeing the truth in life… It can be challenging — but used right, it can be a blessing (especially as a leader).

When people mirror their “inner darkness” on others (one example can be an attack to make you worry that you are making the wrong decisions OR make you feel invisible or not worthy by ignoring you OR they make you believe you are hurting others or destroying for others) it’s actually their OWN fears and ego that wants to trigger your “inner darkness”, your ego to react.

The real reason why you’re so affected by others' aggression is that you actually have your own “inner darkness” such as fears, ego and experiences that are causing you to feel like a victim when someone is upset (we all have it in us --- and there is nothing wrong with that, we just need to be aware of it so we can heal it!). Their “inner darkness” unites with your “inner darkness” – and that's how darkness expands.

That's why passive-aggressive behavior makes you feel scared of being accused of upsetting someone — because deep inside of you you are afraid that you might be the ‘bad person’ if others are upset with you…

So if you want to feel unaffected by others' aggressiveness (and I know you desire that deeply!), you need to address which fears are actually causing you to feel like a victim —

And you need to have the courage to question the truth in you being the cause of others' passive-aggressiveness...

(because you’re not the cause, period/full stop).

You need to embrace the truth: that you are a good person no matter what people say. You are kind and big-hearted. You are light and you need to heal your relationship with your inner light so that you can protect it when others "darkness" tries to expand and unite with your inner wounds...

All of this and more is what I support you to do in my mentor program Guardians Of Feminine Light.

And once you’ve healed this part, you will feel empowered and safe in knowing that you’ve only acted from a place of unconditional love — And no passive-aggressiveness in the world can steal that from you.... This will guard you from feeling like a victim when people act passive-aggressively towards you.

Because your sacred kindness and big heart is worth protecting! We need more empathetic and highly-sensitive leaders like you in the world - so don't let anyone put you down!

Become a Guardian Of Feminine Light, you can learn more HERE.