Are You A Consultant Who Always Does More Work For Your Clients Than You Get Paid For?
Yes, I know you just want to be kind and help the people you serve. But let's be honest, it's really painful when the client expects you to work more than you agreed upon, and you miss out on your family time—and even more painful to set boundaries when the boundaries have already been crossed a long time ago (not to mention, you need all the money you can get...).
You've always dreamed of a day when you can live off your soul-aligned business and not work late every day. You started your business to own your time and not feel drained by demanding relationships—but somehow you still feel depleted.
You think the problem is your kindness. That you care too much about your clients, and maybe you believe you think too highly of people. You assume it's your fault because you were not clear enough in the beginning with your client. You didn't set boundaries because you didn't believe that you would need any.
But none of that is actually true.
The truth is that your kindness is NOT the problem (and I know that you know that too). Your kindness is your biggest superpower.
The real reason is your fear of losing the client by disappointing them. It makes you bargain with yourself and sacrifice your own needs as a form of protection.
And to justify the sacrifice, you unconsciously blame your kindness as the problem.
So, when you find yourself exhausted by clients who make you work late, it's very likely that you're afraid of losing the client and therefore unconsciously choose not to set boundaries (because if you do, you're afraid of hurting your business reputation or losing your income --- or even worse, find yourself in a confrontation).
Fear is a way for the darkness to expand.
So, stop believing that your kindness is the cause—because it's NOT. Don't ever be afraid of your kind-hearted and caring nature again.
It's time for us highly-sensitive big-hearted women to proudly let our sensitivity and kindness light up the world.
When you want to deal with clients who have crossed your boundaries, you first and foremost need to learn how it feels in your body when you act with fear. If you can identify disguised fears, then you can consciously act in a different way that will expand the feminine light. You can set boundaries early in your business relationships and prevent it from even happening.
One of the ways I teach you inside my mentor program, Guardians Of Feminine Light, is by being honest and telling the truth.
I know it's a scary thought, and I know it's not easy when you're afraid—but by telling the truth, your client will most likely be thankful for your honesty and respect you for your professional boundaries. It is true kindness when telling the truth with compassion for yourself and others.
If you still don't believe me, think about this: What would you feel if a consultant you pay thinks you're demanding and doesn't tell you what the problem is? You would probably sense this as highly-sensitive (and it's not very pleasant).
Still feels scary? I just want to give you another example. Have you ever thought about how TV shows with many seasons lose momentum, and you stop watching them? It's like you can almost sense that the new seasons are just bad ideas put together to earn some more money, and the value of the TV show is gone... compared to TV shows that don't have more seasons than planned in the first place, and the momentum is BIG because they are filled with value and necessary content, so we want more.
We all love them, right? Well, it's actually the same with boundaries. Quitting in time (or setting boundaries in time) will actually build love. I'm just saying.
So, stay in your truth. In return you will get happy clients and feel energized and content afterward.
You can find my guide '5 Arguments That Helps You Set Healthy Boundaries Without Feeling Guilt' HERE.